It's a Twin Thing

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    Double the trouble, but double the joy!  If you think it’s challenging caring for one fussy baby or active toddler, try two. Local moms with twins share their tips for multitasking and enjoying every moment. For those who may have wondered what it would be like to have twins, three sets of parents provided snapshots of what life is like raising twin babies/toddlers.

Sara & Rob Cleary

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Parents of Harper Lee and Oliver Malcolm,
2 months, Findlay

What are some of the most difficult aspects of raising twins?

Night time is hard right now with newborn twins because they have different feeding and sleeping schedules. Also, when my twins were born they were full term, but little. Harper had to stay seven extra days in the special care nursery at Blanchard Valley Hospital. The nurses and pediatricians there are truly amazing and a gift to any new mother. But it was incredibly hard to come home with only one baby and I cried every night when I left her at the hospital. The best part is cuddling two beautiful babies and I often stop and think about how blessed we are. Having twins is truly an amazing and unique experience!

What advice would you give parents expecting twins?

Take any help you can get, delegate jobs such
as grocery shopping, meals, laundry and house cleaning, to friends and family. Do what is best for your family and don’t feel guilty, whether it’s breast feeding, pumping or formula. The last thing a mother of twins needs is extra stress! Communicate with your spouse as to what you need and when, don’t assume your spouse will pick up on your body language or comments. You are both sleep deprived, so communicate clearly.

How important is multitasking for your schedule?

Do not multitask during feeding time, pay attention and be present. Make use of every little second of the day to accomplish things, which means that sometimes when the babies are sleeping you have to choose between a shower, Do not multitask during feeding time, pay attention and be present. Make use of every little second of the day to accomplish things, which means that sometimes when the babies are sleeping you have to choose between a shower, eating or sleeping.
 

#Twinning in Twinsburg!

In honor of all things “twins,” the Twins Days Festival in Twinsburg, Ohio, is the largest annual celebration and gathering of twins and other multiples in the world. It will take place on the first full weekend of August so mark your calendars now and make your plans. The theme for the 2014 Twins Days Festival is “Twinstock – Groovy in Twinsburg!” and twins can dress however they want to channel that era. Expect to see a lot of peace signs and tie dye!

Friday, August 1, Saturday, August 2, and Sunday, August 3. Admission $4/person per day and children 5 & under/free. Twins Days Festival, 9825 Ravenna Rd., Twinsburg, OH 44087. 330-425-3652. www.twinsdays.org.

 

Amy & Kyle Johann

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Parents to Graham, 5 years old, and Brinley Paige and Corbin, 22 months, Findlay

 

What are the easiest/hardest parts of having twins?

There isn’t much that is easy about having twins, at least not at this stage. We are noticing that they communicate in their own little way to each other. They have a built-in best friend, and we are excited to see them grow and develop. The hardest part about having twins, besides the fact that it is completely exhausting, is always feeling like there is never enough of me to go around.  It’s hard when all three of our kids want mommy, but I’m only one person. I have a job, I have a house to keep and mouths to feed, and it’s overwhelming sometimes to balance everything.  They are learning the importance of patience, which we all need a little more of anyways.

What advice would you give a mother expecting twins?

Remember to breathe- just breathe- and laugh. We were warned that we wouldn’t remember much of the first year or two. We had no clue how true that was until we experienced it ourselves! Accept help when it is offered, don’t sweat the small stuff, and enjoy every sleepless, tearful night. They don’t stay little for long. We have also found that finding a routine that works for you and your babies and then sticking to that routine will save you tears and many headaches. Take cues from your babies and follow your gut- don’t ever doubt your intuition.

What has been the most rewarding moment of having twins?

The twins have not only completed our family, they have strengthened us as a family. My husband and I have become quite a team, and operate in-sync with each other. We are also proud of our oldest son for stepping up immediately and being an incredible big brother. He is such a big helper, and loves his siblings selflessly. We are truly blessed.

Erin & Andy Ebert

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Parents to Lincoln, age 11, Lexi, age 7, and Danika and Devyn, 3 years old, Findlay

What are the easiest/hardest parts of having twins?

The easiest part is that they always have someone to play with. My girls are together all day every day and have their best friend with them everywhere they go. The hardest is keeping up with two three year olds. They always seem to be a few steps ahead of the rest of us.

What advice would you give a mother expecting twins?

Do everything in an assembly line. When you feed one, feed both. When you change one, change both and so on. This holds true even if one is sleeping. Always ask for help when you need it. We have a great support system and appreciate the help that has been given to us over the years. Always keep in mind that what one twin doesn’t think of, the other does. They like to stay “busy” so keep a close eye on them.

What has been the most rewarding moment of having twins?

I still look at them every day and am  amazed that I had these two little girls. They complete our family! They take dance lessons at Becky’s School of Dance and just finished their first recital. It was a very proud moment for me to see them complete their first dance number on a big stage in front of a large group
of people.