Mother’s Day, May 14 this year, became an official U.S. holiday in 1914 with devoted daughter Anna Jarvis credited as The Mother of Mother’s Day. Four local moms shared with us what makes their Mother’s Day special.
Children: Amy Kuhlman, Scott Hottenstein
Grandchildren: Allison Kuhlman,19 (deceased), Nick Kuhlman, 18
As time goes by, the children grow up and their interests change but you always know that those kids love you, and I always hang on to this one little charm I wear around my neck that says “Grandma, because of you, I have memories to last a lifetime” and I wear it constantly. I have done some really crazy things with them and my grandkids will just laugh and laugh. My goal is to do things so that they will always remember their grandma in a laughing and positive way. You can be as generous as you want and give them things, but it’s the memories that last a lifetime. And I always hold on to that. I always make sure my children and grandchildren know that they are loved unconditionally and I always try to be positive and non-judgmental. I love them with all my heart. They’re my life.
Henry, 4, Jack, 3
We don’t have Mother’s Day traditions yet. But last year, my husband, Danny made me garden stepping stones with Henry’s foot going right and one with Jack’s foot going left. If we continue it, then as they grow, it’ll be one long path. I think this is the first year my boys will really understand that it’s a day for mom. Henry is always very excited to buy me flowers so Danny is going to plant flowers from seed with them that they can pick for me. What I’ve learned the most about motherhood is grace upon grace upon grace. I’m learning to give myself the patience that I try to give my kids. I love them so much and would bend over backwards to affirm them even when they make a mistake. That’s how God feels about us and I’m learning to give myself that grace, too. What I want for my kids is what God wants for me, and when I think about it that way, it’s easier and better. Being a Mom is the hardest job that there is. It’s very rewarding. And when you think about the longevity of it, it’s very humbling.
Ruby Mae, 5, Sylvia, 1
Where I grew up in Bloomdale, we always had chicken dinners that the fire department put on for Mother’s Day. My dad was in the fire department and so every Mother’s Day we were there as a family and I always knew everybody. We still do it today. I go with the girls and meet my parents and it’s a continuing tradition. My favorite part of being a mom is all the snuggling and watching their personalities develop. Each new stage is fun – there are always challenges but there’s so much fun involved in watching them grow. It’s important for me to be that presence so they know they can always come to me and count on me. Even as they change and get bigger, and they aren’t glued right to my side like they are now, I want them to know that no matter what I’m always there. And I try to find time every day to make that connection with them and to check in. I think that’s really important to be there in whatever way they need at that stage in life.
Cole, 25, Beckett, 22, Arden, 21, Duncan, 17
For Mother’s Day, we usually have a meal together – typically planned and prepared by my husband, Jeff and the kids. I always enjoyed whatever I wanted to do on that day. As the kids got older, though, there was often a soccer game or various activities but we’d still celebrate. I remember Mother’s Day 8-10 years ago, when all the kids were home. It was a beautiful spring day and both grandmothers were present. We had a picnic outside in our backyard and the kids were playing. It was very, very special. I just love watching my kids develop into the people that God intends them to be. I miss them being around but I love watching them experiment and see what direction they’re going. I love finding out what they’re really good at. And I hope that my kids will remember me as their advocate, their biggest cheerleader. As they get older, it grows into friendship. But early on it’s not that way, and I hope that behind it all they know I was there, supporting and encouraging them.